Where did you first learn about sex? (II)

We met Aminat reading a novel before she gave our team audience to interview her. She said, “I love to read and work on the computer when I was much younger. In fact, I first saw raw sex in my toy computer game bought for me on my eighth birthday. At the age of 10, I had advanced my scope of reading and I was involved in all sorts of computer games and also masturbation. By the time I was 13-15, I had started reading adult novels and became addicted to pornography. As a matter of fact, I have seen it all.”

We met Jesse in an orphanage home. Jesse narrated his experience saying, “Around the age of nine, my sister who is older than I am actually taught me everything I needed to know about sex. We lost our parents in a flood accident. She is of the opinion that if kids understand the basics of sex, it’s more likely they’ll be sensible. She did not go into crude details but she told me that there’s no point in lying to me. She said kids aren’t stupid; they’ll figure it out one way or another. She told me that the more you understand the basics of sex and what it represents, the more you can appreciate it and see it as a beautiful thing when used properly. Since kids are growing up faster nowadays, they should know before age eight because many are already experimenting with sex by then. She has always kept the communication door open. I always had good communication with her.”

Kuburat shared her experience saying, “My parents never discussed sex with me. All I knew about sex was on the street. I learned from the older kids in my elementary school, inside the school bus and at the back of the school toilet. Many of them were lesbians and homosexuals. I also learned from older men who bought all the things I hawked at once. The arrangement then was if they pay for all my wares and had interest, I will give them sex. This was easier for me than to wander around. When I turned eight, my parents were going through a nasty divorce so neither of them was thinking of me but their own self-centred happiness. Immediately after their divorce, my mother went back to school and dropped me off with my grandmother. I was actually molested repeatedly at eight by a neighbour who usually helped my grandma do her laundry. When my grandma died and I was moved to my mother’s place, street life had become a part of me because I could easily move around in the evenings and offer sex for money. Sometimes, in a bid to discipline me, my mother would lock me out of the house. But that gave me more opportunity to offer free sex to anyone. I am 33 now and have no regard for sex. I see it as a means to get financial power.”

Rebecca was the next person willing to tell us about her first sexual encounter. She said, “I was an innocent girl with strict Christian parents. At 10, my neighbour, who was a strict school teacher, decided to take me up for private summer coaching. The summer coaching was nothing but a sex coaching. He taught me everything from theory to birth control pills, sexually transmitted diseases and wild sexual practice. He was an extreme raving, sex-crazed maniac, who subjected me to all forms of sexual violence and brutality. But because he was always seen as a very strict and respected teacher around the neighbourhood, my parents never suspected that he had turned me into his sexual slave in spite of my initial refusal for him to coach me. My parents took my refusal as a sign that I did not want to read my books and become somebody in life. By the time my parents discovered who he really was; I was actually pregnant with his child.”

At present, Rebecca is having mental problems due to the unholy sexual brutality and cruelty she had gone through. The so-called teacher is also facing the music of the law, but the deed is done already.

Helen’s case is one we are trying to handle with all carefulness because according to her, she has been constantly raped by her father since she turned 13 till date.

Jimmy, now 14, also shared his experience saying, “I actually read the definition of sexual intercourse in my dad’s encyclopaedic medical dictionary when I was in nursery school at age five, when I asked my dad how babies were made as my mum was pregnant with my young brother. He did tell me what sex was and the general gist of how it worked in terms of needing both a penis and a vagina to make babies. And because I was exceptionally brilliant, my parents (dad especially), exposed me to a lot of reading. My dad told me that sex was for people who were in a long-lasting marital relationship, or, at least, I formed that impression. My parents were always very positive about sex and told me that sex was a beautiful thing. I think part of what helped was the fact that my parents had a truly happy and balanced marital relationship.”

It only makes sense that people having good sex are going to teach their kids good things about sex.

This survey has succeeded in revealing the state of our society. Parents should not only be careful but watchful and be friends indeed to their children. These kids are the future. We should be real parents to them. Warn them about sexual perversions.

QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS

How can my wife grow her pubic hair?

I got married a little bit late because most of the girls in my neighbourhood refused dating me for reasons best known to them. My parents actually arranged my marriage, which was perfect. But the only problem I have with my wife is she has no pubic hair. I am a businessman and I have bought all sorts of hair growth cream to make her pubic hair grow, all to no avail. She has hair in every other place except her pubic region. Ironically that is my major sex turn-on. I have cheated on her several times because of this. She is a nice woman but whenever she is naked, I get discouraged. The few times I had sex with her, she had to wear her panties; if not, I will immediately loss erection. Please what do I do?

Mr. Richmond

Hi Mr. Richmond, your wife’s case is a real case where she can’t produce pubic hair. I think you should not relent in your search for products that can grow the pubic hair; I will also be on the lookout for such. However you can buy artificial pubic hair (it is just like the weave/wig women fix on their hair) and fix it on her pubic area each time you want to make love to her. Sex is best with your married spouse.

What causes chest pains during sex?

Why am I always in pain especially my chest, arms and stomach during sex? Could it be because I love to go for at least two rounds on every sexual episode or what?

Akiloh James

Are you hypertensive or prone to stroke? Are you too obese for your age? Are you also about 35 years of age and above? Are there also some pneumonia cases you left half treated or untreated? These observations are very important. And then, I would love to say that chest pain could be a heart attack signal. Although heart conditions typically appear as discomfort, not pain. But the discomfort associated with heart disease could also be at the upper chest region, throat, jaw, left shoulder or arm, or abdomen. The best thing to do is to see a medical practitioner for detailed examination. Sex, like any other activity, could lead to this or not.

Does constant breast sucking lead to infertility in women and do some birth control pills lead to breast cancer?

Mrs. Ugoji Noyemakwe

When a woman’s breast is being sucked regularly and habitually the same way an infant sucks his/her mother’s breast for breast milk, there is a possibility of such lady becoming infertile because the husband sucks the breast too often than normal. But if the man sucks his wife’s breasts on few occasions, it will not lead to infertility. Birth control pills like high-dose oestrogen formulations have been identified as great risk in women under 50, along with some other formulations.