Because sex has the potential to be the
most profound satisfying and rich part of a marriage union, its place
and position can never be substituted. Sex is a mysterious and sacred
act that knits a couple together in ways that are beyond description.
Sometimes words fail when I try to describe the oneness that a husband
and wife feel after giving their bodies to each other in all erotic
ways. Whenever I teach couples about sex in conferences or in my office,
the atmosphere in the room changes because of its uniqueness. Some
couples cannot wait to hear me talk openly about a topic that is often
not discussed. Others are very curious while others are very sceptical.
To them, the topic is forbidden, unmentionable and taboo; something not
to be discussed in the public.
However, not until the married couples
embrace the fact that in their union there is no substitute for sex,
their marriage will still be gravely affected in a negative way. Studies
have shown that married couples who embrace sex with a positive
attitude and place sex in its rightful position in the union have the
best, most satisfying life together. They enjoy sex more often and have
the highest levels of physical and emotional fulfilment. 88 per cent of
such couples receive great physical wellness. I am sure you want to know
why.
Having sex and orgasm increases levels
of the hormone oxytocin in the body, the love hormones, and this helps
couples bond and build trust. A recent evaluation of 59 pre-menopausal
women before and after passionate sex with their husbands found that the
more sexual intercourse, the higher the oxytocin levels. Oxytocin
allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond. Higher oxytocin has
also been linked with a feeling of generosity. That explains why
husbands can release any amount of cash to their wives whenever they are
sexually fulfilled. Therefore, if you are feeling suddenly more
generous toward your spouse than usual, oxytocin is in the air.
Boosting self-esteem and immunity was
one of 237 reasons people have sex, as observed by sex therapists. Good
sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a
week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called
immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and
other infections. Oxytocin released during orgasm promotes sleep,
according to research. In addition, getting enough sleep has been linked
with a good sex. On the average, the human heart beats 70 times per
minute but during orgasm, the heart races at 115 beats per minute, which
puts the heart in a healthier position. During sex, the body makes use
of 100 muscles to produce orgasm while it takes 17 muscles to smile.
This indicates that those muscles are not only active but do not
depreciate. Brilliant sex produces satisfying orgasm, and orgasm
releases chemicals that curb appetite so high-quality sex helps spouses
to lose weight.
Sex relieves stress and it lowers blood
pressure. Married women who had intercourse had better responses to
stress than those who engaged in other activities or abstinence and
frequent sexual intercourse has been associated with lower diastolic
blood pressure. One way to make your wife look healthy and less
stressful is to give her a hug after sex, this drastically removes
constant nagging headaches, increases radiant skin glow, makes her cope
with life issues better. It makes her more accommodating, willing to
help, warm, tender, affectionate and caring. It helps her to be a better
cook.
Did you know that just thirty minutes of
sex between couples burns 85 calories or more? Sex is a great form of
exercise. Sex improves cardiovascular health. When some older couples
worry about the effect of the energy expended during sex could cause
stroke, I tell them that it is not so because scientists found out that
frequency of sex was not associated with it. Having sex twice or more a
week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half in men, compared
with those who had sex less than once a month. Cold shower can increase
the production of sex hormones in men and women. Having sex under a cold
shower is not only romantic but medicinal.
Sex reduces prostate cancer risk.
Frequent ejaculations and not masturbation-induced, especially in 20
year-old and above men may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in
life, Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology
International.
Sex strengthens pelvic floor muscles.
For wives, doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercise known as Kegel
during sex offers a couple of benefits. Men enjoy more satisfaction,
women enjoy more pleasure, it strengthens the area and helps minimise
the risk of incontinence, backaches, fatty big tummy and hysterectomy
later in life. To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your
pelvic floor, as if you are trying to stop urine flow. Count to three,
then release.
When sex is given its proper place and
priority, its benefits can never be over-emphasised. Do not put anything
in the place of sex. If you do, the emptiness it will create will be
very noticeable.
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
Unnecessary sweating during and immediately after sex
I have a unique problem and it is scary.
I noticed an excessive sweating especially from my palms, feet and one
side of the face and lower part of my abdomen immediately after sex even
when the air-condition is on or even when I have sex under the rain.
Initially I thought it would stop but it increases as I grow old, the
only time I don’t experience this is whenever I don’t have sex.
Matins Yenufor
Men have a higher sweat output
than women. But if you always need to wipe your hands, nose of sweat
extremely with clothes, especially after or during sex, it may be more
than a “guy” thing. It could be excessive sweating which means that you
sweat far more than your body needs you to sweat, the body’s cooling
mechanism is so overactive that it produces four or five times the
amount of sweat that you need. Although heat, ragging emotions, stress
can trigger excessive sweating, it is more common in people who are
overweight or out of shape. The good news is that most cases of
excessive sweating are harmless. But it can also be a warning sign of
thyroid problems, diabetes or infection, heart or lung disease,
menopause, certain high blood pressure drugs, medications taken for
diabetes, and sometimes even a stroke. If you are worried about how much
you sweat, make a decision to see a doctor for a medical diagnosis.
How safe are sexual enhancing drugs?
I am a diabetic patient; I am also on
some anti- hypertensive drugs. Recently, I discovered a poor sexual
performance due to my medical conditions. But ironically, I love sex; I
can’t do without it. I attach great importance to sex. I have some
medications from the hospital that will enhance my sexual performance
but my question is; are there downsides to synthetic drugs for good
erection?
Mr. Kalikow Sunday
Well, the downside to these products
is that there are side effects. For example, men that have certain high
blood pressure disorders and are taking erectile drugs that have
nitrate substance may have problem if they mix these synthetic
anti-erectile drugs with the high blood pressure drugs. Such people can
experience a sudden drop in their blood pressure and have a serious
complication. This is why men, who take some of these synthetic drugs
may [if during or after having sex] suddenly have chest pains or a heart
attack.
Does constant watching of pornography promote a good marital relationship?
I was beginning to hate sex with my man
until we began to watch pornography. Without that, we cannot have
worthwhile sex. This is not helping me at all. My question is, don’t you
think pornography could harm a good marital relationship?
Mrs. Joan Ifeayan
If both of you can watch an
educative, informative, sexually explicit movie together with the aim of
improving on your sexual performance, it is not a bad idea. Women
actually love romantic stories while men seem to get aroused just by
seeing two people having sex. If either of these forms the basis of
arousal for a couple, it is still not a bad idea. But when couples or a
partner becomes hooked on such and it is obvious such partners can’t be
aroused or have an erection without watching these sexually explicit
movies, then there seems to be a problem that may need to be addressed
fast.
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